Friday, February 27, 2026

Frozen River

My book club, which has two men and eight women, recently read Frozen River. which is based on the real-life diary of Martha Ballard, a late 1700s midwife who journaled her activities, including over 800 births. I liked the book but, as many historical fiction books do, the author put her modern self into the historical character. It just did not feel realistic. Also, as one woman pointed out Martha's husband was a total female fantasy of a man. It was laughable. 

The strangest thing for me was in our discussion where many woman relished a scene where Martha cut off and burned the penis of an unarguably bad and violent man. 

I do wonder, and did point out to the group, how they would feel of a male character cut off and burned the breasts of a bad woman. I'll bet they would have all hated the book and many would have read no further. 

Monday, February 23, 2026

Yet Another Protest Song

I have a feeling I could post about a new Minnesota ICE protest song every day and never catch up. 

This one is a bit different. It was created by a guy named Jimmy in Sweden using AI and then put into a video by Marc Skjervem, an Assistant Dean at the University of Minnesota. It is way better than you would think. It sent a chill down my spine. I'm very proud to be a Minnesotan. 

Sunday, February 22, 2026

One More Protest Song

Yesterday I posted songs from Bruce Springsteen and U2 protesting ICE in Minnesota. As I was driving this morning I head another protest song, this time from The Roe Family Singers. It's pretty good. I do love the creativity in people. It give me hope. 

Saturday, February 21, 2026

ICE In Minnesota

We have had a lot of ice in Minnesota this year. Both kinds. One we are used to, the other not so much. I recently got back from a trip to Asia which included time in Vietnam and Cambodia. Both places felt ridiculously safe. I don't believe I saw any military forces and police presence was minimal. At home we now have volunteer watchers outside of daycare centers, schools and small business to warn of ICE presence. Cambodia, pretty much a dictatorship, and Vietnam, a single party state, felt safe but at home citizens are protecting other citizens from the government. Surreal.

And yes they are protecting non-citizens, most of which are here legally, but also many citizens as ICE is harassing and even murdering law abiding citizens. 

One of the most ironic aspects of ICE activity is they are targeting citizens who are protesting their actions. Possibly even more than the illegal immigrants they are supposedly looking for. Our country was literally founded by people who protested their government's unethical and immoral actions. We call such people patriots. 

Seeing all the citizens protesting, watching, delivering food to those afraid to go out, supporting small business as well as all the anti-ICE signs (many humorous) makes me prouder to be a Minnesotan than ever.  Carry on!

And a big thank you from all Minnesotans to Bruce Springsteen and U2! 



Sunday, February 15, 2026

Top 5 Secrets Your Wife Does Not Want You to Know About Divorce

The title of this post as well as the video below is a little too gender biased. Watch the video understanding the genders can are are sometimes reversed. Although that is not to say things like false accusations of abuse are more commonly made by women than men. 

Thursday, February 5, 2026

The Financial Impact Of Divorce

Most people do not understand the potential financial impact of divorce until they go through it.

Friday, January 30, 2026

Is Divorce Harder On Men or Women

James Sexton discusses divorce, infidelity, and gender. It's worth a watch. 

Thursday, January 22, 2026

Attractivness

One of the biases which often goes unnoticed is attractiveness, Pretty women and good looking men have a huge advantage in life pure and simple

Bastian Jaeger and colleagues were motivated by a puzzling gap in both research and public discourse: despite strong evidence that physically attractive individuals receive systematic advantages in domains like hiring, pay, and legal outcomes, “lookism” attracts far less moral outrage than race- or gender-based discrimination. The authors asked whether this apparent tolerance reflects genuine acceptance of attractiveness-based bias, or whether people simply fail to notice it in the first place.

Personally I have always thought this is obvious. As do many others from this discussion. It is the reason women, and some men, get plastic surgery. Men will even go to great lengths (slight pun) to increase their height

Thursday, January 15, 2026

Top 10 Dirty Tricks

Below are the top 10 dirty tricks used in divorce. At least according to a random guy on YouTube. 


Friday, January 9, 2026

Sliding Backwards

The Trump administration appears set to ban women from combat positions in the military. No doubt they would prefer women's role in the military be restricted to being military wives. 

The Pentagon is mounting a six-month review of women in ground combat jobs, to ensure what it calls the military "effectiveness" of having several thousand female soldiers and Marines in infantry, armor and artillery, according to a memo obtained by NPR.

Hegseth, an Army National Guard veteran with tours in Iraq and Afghanistan, opposed women in ground combat units while he was a Fox News host and author. "I'm straight up saying we should not have women in combat roles. It hasn't made us more effective. Hasn't made us more lethal. Has made fighting more complicated."

So much for gender equality. How anyone thinks that banning over half the population from being in combat will increase the effectiveness of  the force is beyond me. 

Saturday, January 3, 2026

Complaint Against Federal Judge Sarah Merriam

The Legal Accountability Project filed a formal complaint against Sarah Merriam, a federal appeals judge on the 2nd Circuit.

A nonprofit group that advocates for law clerks is alleging a judge, Sarah Merriam, bullies and mistreats clerks. 

Filing a formal complaint is very rare. Only a few of them are filed every year even though there are hundreds of federal judges. Law clerks are wary because they fear retaliation. They really can't report bullying or abusive conduct without that getting back to the judge, and that could destroy their legal careers. Federal judges have so much power, especially over clerks. And people who work in the federal courts don't have the same employment protections other Americans do.

And that's worth emphasizing. The federal courts are exempt from Title VII antidiscrimination laws. So people who work there generally cannot sue over mistreatment on the job. They have to use the court's internal process to complain and try to seek justice. And our NPR investigation this year found problems with that process.

Without controls, without transparency, abuse and corruption will flourish. It is that simple. 

If this judge abuses clerks in such a manner imagine what she does to litigants.