Tuesday, October 15, 2019

Why People Commit Suicide

If you ask most people why a person would commit suicide, they will typically assume depression or other mental health problems. The reality is far more complicated.
Around 43 percent of the variability in suicidal behavior among the general population can be explained by genetics...while the remaining 57 percent is attributable to environmental factors.
One cause of suicide often ignored or at least overlooked is self-sacrifice. The classic example is the proverbial story of a soldier jumping on a grenade in a foxhole to save his squad. Another is the suffragettes in both the United States and the United Kingdom who starved themselves to death in protest of their lack of voting rights. Or the IRA members who died on hunger strikes to protest Margaret Thatcher's decision to incarcerate them as criminals rather than prisoners of war. The iron lady relented. 

A more recent example is that of Tunisian  Mohamed Bouazizi  who set himself on fire to protest police corruption. His act of self-immolation was the spark the ignited the Arab Spring.

We do not know how many people who commit suicide do so out of self-sacrifice. It would be difficult to determine and there are no studies on the matter. My guess, however, is that is is far greater than most people assume.

Suicide is often not so much a call for help as it is a call for justice.

Sunday, October 6, 2019

Reverse The Genders

Using my "is it sexist if you reverse the genders" test,  take a look at this card I ran across being sold at a store:


Imagine the outrage if the the picture was of a king and the phrase was something like, "God created Man, Women were an afterthought". This would be rightly viewed as highly sexist. So why is the above funny?

Even more pernicious is when violence by women is viewed as humorous. For a striking (pun intended) example take a look at this commercial for Dannon Oikos Greek Yogurt from the 2012 Super Bowl.


Most people think it is funny. What if it were the woman teasing the man and he gave her black eye? That would result in a strong boycott agaisnt Dannon and legal action against the company in many countries.

We have a long way to go before we achieve gender equality.

Sunday, September 29, 2019

NPO 2019 Shared Parenting Report Card

The National Parents Organization, which advocates for shared parenting, has released their 2019 Shared Parenting Report Card.

Minnesota ranks fairly high, although their ranking has gone down a bit from last year. In my case, Spring fought tooth and nail for sole custody, even though, I believe, she knew and desired that I be the primary parent.  So then why did she fight so hard for custody? Two reasons that I can see. The first is that she believed, quite correctly, that she would get more money out of me if were were awarded it. Money seems to have been the driving factor of a lot of her actions. But the second one is more psychological. She believed that it would make her look better to her and her family. After all, she left me. If the court had awarded me sole custody that would have raised a lot of questions.

I suspect the reason Minnesota ranks so high is that, unlike with alimony, we have a formula for child support. Like splitting assets earned by either spouse earned during the marriage when divorcing, it isn't necessarily fair but it is know and hence less prone to corruption.

From the NPO report:
Extensive research going back more than a quarter century has found that the 35% of children in fatherless or single parent families not only fare worse in terms of psychological and emotional well-being, physical and mental health, labor market and wealth accumulation outcomes, but are more prone to social pathologies such as child abuse, crime and substance abuse.

These children represent:
• 63% of teen suicides;• 70% of juveniles in state-operated institutions;• 71% of high school dropouts;• 75% of children in chemical abuse centers; 
The societal cost of fatherlessness and single-parent families has been conservatively estimated at $100 billion annually.

Friday, September 20, 2019

Lifetime Alimony

Although not quite a bad as my situation but still terrible, Robert Rosenthal discusses his divorce with attorneys Karyn Turk and Joe Costello.


Wednesday, September 11, 2019

Interesting Quotes

I ran into some interesting quotes about family court, specifically in California but I am sure many  apply to other states as well. Certainly they do in Minnesota. Although I will say that I don't quite agree about many of them such as the one about the Rothschild's owning the legal industry. That is pure conspiratorial nonsense.

Here are a few that I like:
“I would say that about 50% of the people are corrupt.”
Spoken about San Diego Family Courts, by someone who works in them. This was my experience as well:
and that the other half simply keeps quiet while stuffing their pockets with CASH.

"Attorney's are like slot machines, you ... put money into them but it is
 very unpredictable if you are going to get anything back ..., and if you
do, it will ... cost you much ..., you will be bankrupt."
Excerpted from Without Honor, Hall of Injustice, by Raymond Heninger 
“There has never been a case in the history of the California
Family Courts where a court official was convicted of Perjury.”
Spoken to me by two different lawyers  who work in the San Diego Family Courts.
That's because to a Judge-Buddy, telling Lies in court are just “Petty things” ... and
because California gives Lieyers a Free Pass to play Lies & Court: via "Litigation Privilege." 
“Justice only takes place down there by Accident.”
Spoken to me by a man who used to work with the San Diego Family Courts: right after I told
him that Billy the Kidnapper made a false charge in court that was not reported to CPS, nor investigated.
“The government’s job is to protect its citizens, but in the case of an
angry spouse or former spouse, the court’s officials sit back and allow
them to nitpick and tell as many lies as they want until all the money
is gone.  That’s how they make their money. It’s all about the Money.”
Spoken by a man who who also LOST custody of his son in the San Diego Family Courts, and afterward
stopped paying taxes and wrote the Great IRS Hoax: located on the http://famguardian.org  website: 

Sunday, September 1, 2019

Steve Clark Tries Again

Steve Clark has been trying for several years to change alimony laws in California. He is back at it.  Kudos to Clark for is tenacity.

One item in the article I cringe at is the statement:
And childcare still tends to fall disproportionately to women – the ones most likely to cut back on work hours, Heyde noted.
“I’ve heard a lot of men say, ‘She made the choice to put her career on hold to raise the children,’” Heyde said. “Well, he benefited, too. Kids’ extracurricular activities and doctor appointments are also the father’s responsibility.”
Why do people always assume that the mother is the primary caregiver in cases where alimony is awarded? In my case, Spring was clearly not the primary caregiver. The custody evaluator ruled that parenting during the marriage was joint and in reality I did far more of it. And since the divorce that has only become more evident.

Friday, August 23, 2019

More on Family Court Corruption

Stephen Krasner has a well-written article, A Broken System: Contempt of Family Court, on family court corruption and just how pernicious it is to society.

My believe is that family court has become one of the best places for those who lack a moral compass to operate. This includes litigants, lawyers, judges, mediators and a host of others who financially benefit from what is clearly criminal activity.  Why? Because the reward is high, the risk of being caught is vanishingly small, and the societal prestige great.
Family Courts display true clashes that pit the spirit of the law versus the letter of the law — in a manner that tears parents lives apart, harms children and financially ruins so many people while sustaining a thriving, corrupt and lucrative system.
The institutional corruption is a more mechanical environment that many players operate within and manipulate. The individual corruption is where players are willfully engaging in unethical motives — knowingly gaming the vulnerabilities found within the court’s infrastructure. 
Both types of corruption operate and thrive in family court environments as well as those industries and services stemming off them.