Louise Perry On Dating

Louise Perry is a British journalist and author best known as a reactionary feminist which means she advocates for conservative traditional gender roles and values. 

There any many, many areas I disagree with Perry on but her views are interesting. 

In a discussion with Chris Williamson, she opines on the difficulties with dating for younger people. In her view, one the the major problems is woman filtering online dating applications to only select men who are far taller than average and with a much larger income that average. Essentially they are pre-selecting out many men who, if they had actually met, might have been happy with. 

Disadvantage Men

It is often difficult to talk about disadvantages men have in society because we are so used to dealing with women being disadvantaged. The reality is that both are disadvantaged in different areas. And the trend has clearly been that men are becoming more disadvantaged as Richard Reeves explains in a book and video. 

One clear example of this is that when title IX was passed in 1972 there was a 13% college education gap in favor of men. Now it is 15% in favor of women. 

Other areas we see men disadvantaged is in are the draft and military deaths, workplace injuries and deaths and, as this site often talks about, alimony. 98+% of alimony payers are men. Often even in cases where custody is joint or the father has custody. 

No Kings

I don't mention politics much on this site but I have made it pretty clear I am no fan of Donald Trump. Why? Because the corruption I see on our legal system, especially family law, is the exactly the type of corruption Trump loves. He wants to be treated as above the law just like so many lawyers and judges I have encountered. 

Last week Trump held his long desired military/birthday parade in Washington D.C. which was sparsely attended while the same day millions marched in No Kings events across the country.  I was one of those people. 

The march I attended in St. Paul, Minnesota was a bit surreal as earlier that morning a state legislator, Melissa Hortman and her husband were assassinated in their home by Vance Luther Boelter, a right wing nut job, posing as a police officer. Earlier Boelter shot a state senator and his wife multiple times at their home. As Boelter was still at large at the time of the No Kings protests, law enforcement advised people not to attend the protests and nearly all were cancelled.  The advice was warranted considering a list of 50 or so democrats as well as No Kings documents were found in Boelter's vehicle. 

I know of at least dozen people who did not attend the protest due to the warnings but S, one of my sons and I went anyway. So did 25,000 other Minnesotans.  

The best part of the protest were the signs people carried. Here are a few:

And my favorite:

Class Action Lawsuits

Wired has an article on how much money you can make by joining every class action lawsuit you can. My sister does this and make a bit of money off it. Sure it isn't a huge amount of money but $10 or $50 or even $100 dollars every now and then helps. 

The lawyers however can make millions. Indeed many firms specialize in filing the cases just to get a settlement. One that includes a small amount of money for the purported victims and massive amounts of money for the lawyers. The companies sued often settle simply to avoid endless and costly litigation. 

We live in a very weird, and very litigious, society. 

Perjury In Family Court

Interesting video - What to do when the other side lies in court (commits perjury) from Attorney Brian Thomas Mayer. He is honest about just how much perjury occurs in family court. 

Divorce Laws Trends

The trend in divorce laws has been mixed. Some states have put limits on alimony, especially lifetime alimony, but other states have made the divorce process more complicated and prolonged. And thus more expensive. 

The real issue is when people, often on the advise of their attorney, seek to garner financial gain for themselves through perjury, false accusations and innuendos. Most the issues in family court would be solved if the courts would simply enforce current law. Punish people who commit perjury and convict lawyers who commit fraud. 

For men—particularly those who are fathers—these potential legal changes could carry serious consequences. 

Financial Risks 

If fault is reintroduced as a primary divorce requirement, it may shift how courts handle spousal support, asset division, and legal costs. Accusations of fault could be used strategically, putting men in a defensive position even in amicable separations. 

Custody Concerns 

Men often already face biases in child custody battles. If courts begin tying fault to parental fitness, fathers could be unfairly penalized based on vague or subjective evidence. This is especially concerning in high-conflict divorces or those involving accusations designed to influence custody outcomes. 

Legal Complexity 

The simplicity of no-fault divorce allows men who want to peacefully exit their marriages to do so with dignity. Rolling back that option would likely increase the cost, time, and emotional strain involved in divorce—placing more burden on those who may already be at a disadvantage. 

Justice By Omission

Published on Medium today Justice by Omission: How Family Court Covers Up Its Failures.

Ask your local court system for the following:

• How many protective orders were later dismissed as false or unproven?
• What percentage of custody decisions are reversed on appeal?
• How often does the same judge deny motions from one party while granting all motions for the other?
• How many parents are alienated from their children for more than six months?
• How many unrepresented litigants lose custody without ever getting a trial?

You won’t get answers. Not because the data is unclear — but because it’s never been collected.

Lack of data collection is a systematic issue with family court. At one point I tried very hard to just find out how often permanent alimony was awarded but ran into a dead end. I even engaged my local state senator's office but the issue was that the data was simply not recorded. 

I also tried to find out how many family law lawyers have ever been convicted of fraud upon the court. This, however, was easier to find out. Zero. Despite it being one of only three crimes in the state without a statute of limitations. 

Our court system, especially family court, is far more corrupt than most people realize.