Sunday, February 22, 2015

Is Alimony Offensive to Today's Modern Woman or Modern Man?

An article from 2013 in the Huffington Post by attorney Diane L. Danois asks, Is Alimony Offensive to Today's Modern Woman or Modern Man?  Danois discusses the small but growing risk women face now that many are out earning their spouses:
While alimony strikes fear in most men, especially those living in states still recognizing permanent alimony, it is now also a risk that many professional women face when filing for divorce
She also talks about some of the negative consequences of alimony:
Reasons Why Alimony May Be Considered Offensive:
  1. An alimony obligation that forces one party to significantly financially downsize his/her lifestyle, while the alimony-receiving former spouse continues to live at the same standard of living as had been enjoyed during the marriage is inequitable and offensive to the alimony-paying spouse 
  2. Paying alimony to an ex-spouse, who is cohabiting with someone else 
  3. Agreeing to lump sum alimony, and watching your ex remarry shortly 
  4. Alimony quashes the motivation to work and become self-sufficient 
  5. Alimony encourages a "victim" mentality, which is insulting when the recipient is educated and capable of working

Monday, February 9, 2015

Effects of Divorce on Children

1. Smoking habits
2. Ritalin use
3. Poor math and social skills
4. Susceptibility to sickness
5. An increased likelihood of dropping out of school
6. A propensity for crime
7. Higher risk of stroke
8. Greater chance of getting divorced
9. An early death

One of the reasons I tired so hard to get Spring not to go through with the divorce was because of the negative impact on the children. I have tried as hard as I can to minimize those effects but, still, I know that it has hurt them. 

And unfortunately I have no doubt that in divorces where a parent commits perjury and criminal actions it only makes it all the harder on the kids. 

Monday, February 2, 2015

Are Women Actually More Aggressive than Men to Their Partners?

A study by Dr Elizabeth Bates from the University of Cumbria as reported in the the British Psychological Society determined that in relationships women may be the more more aggressive than men.
The fundings showed that women were more likely to be physically aggressive to their partners than men and that men were more likely to be physically aggressive to their same-sex others.
Furthermore, women engaged in significantly higher levels of controlling behaviour than men, which significantly predicted physical aggression in both sexes. 
Now the study was small and I am not sure the difference is huge but I do believe that women are at least as aggressive as men. Certainly in my case, Spring was extremely controlling and, unlike me, she was prone to physical violence.