Friday, November 9, 2018


I have to apologize on my last post as it looks suspiciously similar to the September 23 post. I did not notice until a few days after I published it. I even used the same graphic!

My only excuse is that I have been extremely busy lately. I am always too busy but it has been especially bad lately. I just cannot seem to catch up on work. That combined with taking care of the kids and maintaining a relationship barely leaves me time for cleaning the house and doing the other maintenance items in life. Oh yeah, there is also my work advocating for a more just family court system of which this site is a part of.

So I am stressed. Which is a good (or bad?) segue into a new study that shows that a father's stress can be passed down to his children.
A stressed-out and traumatized father can leave scars in his children. New research suggests this happens because sperm “learn” paternal experiences via a mysterious mode of intercellular communication in which small blebs break off one cell and fuse with another.
Striking evidence that harsh conditions affect a man’s children came from crop failures and war ravaging Europe more than a century ago. In those unplanned human experiments, prolonged famine appeared to set off a host of health changes in future generations, including higher cholesterol levels and increased rates of obesity and diabetes. 
Great. Given that I have not only had numerous crimes committed against me not only by Spring but many others and the fact that I have to work for the rest of my life to benefit the perpetrators of those crimes, I suspect I am at the high end of stress. The fact that I can never retire nor can I remarry because that would obligate my new wife to pay alimony to Spring should I become sick or disabled only adds to it.  Not to mention the "normal" stress that comes from being a single parent.

I have never understood how people can commit terrible acts. Are they simply evil? Do they lack a moral compass? I think part of it is that they just do not think about the consequences of their actions. Perjury may get you alimony but it also might push your ex to suicide. Stating that you are unable to work when you can might give you a life of leisure but at the expense of your children's respect and love. A lawyer who lies in court may win his or her case but the victim may become so despondent he gets drunk and causes a car crash that kills children.

Actions have consequences. If you want to be a good person, you have to thoroughly think them through.

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